So you’ve decided to move in with bae. There are probably a bunch of emotions rushing through your head–excitement, fear, comfort, and worry, to name a few. Even if you’ve been together with your partner for awhile, cohabitation is a whole new beast. Their little quirks (not putting the top back on toothpaste, leaving the toilet seat up) can bring you agitation like no other. But on the other hand, having someone to share dinner with every evening and to cuddle with every night can bring you a sense of peace.
Some people in relationships worry that their hot, raging passion will quickly be squelched by the waters of familiarity. But this may not be a bad thing.
But be careful not to venture too far into “roommate” or “homie” territory.
“Make sure your partner knows you want them,” she continues. “Have days where the devices are not allowed. Talk to one another. Find ways to connect.”
Switching it up will be key for you both. Relationships are refreshed through new activities.
“Yes, you can have a weekly date night, but change up the activity each week,” says Martinez. “You don’t always have to do dinner and a movie. Get adventurous.”
Discovery will be the one on the ways you and your love maintain your spark. When you tackle a new activity, whether it’s sky diving or cooking classes, you get to see your partner in a new light, and maybe even learn something about them you didn’t know. That is how you stroke the fires of passion consistently in long term connections.
“A lot of couples stop claiming their sexual partners because they feel they’ve already figuratively looked behind the curtain,” Martinez describes. “Make sure they remember there’s something different every time they look.”